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Tuesday, January 1, 2008
Don't be Used At this time of year it is only natural that we look back and review where we have
been and what we have done. It is also natural for us to look forward and envision where we want to go and what we want to
do. Looking back we will see people and situations that made us uncomfortable, fearful and even regretful. We will chastise
others for perceived slights and transgressions. At times we may feel used and taken advantage of.
As we switch our gaze to the future we wonder how we can extricate ourselves from these situations and distance ourselves
from these people. How we can stop people from using us and putting us in these situations that hurt us or stifle us.
It is difficult to see with clarity when we are feeling hurt but the way through this sense of dis-empowerment
and victimization is self-discovery and, eventually, self-empowerment.
Blaming others is a quick
and easy way to stop our spiritual growth. If it is someone else's fault then there is no need to explore and examine
my own role, my own psyche, my own spirituality. That is not to say that people do not hurt us but we are in the situation
for a reason. Why do we find ourselves in this predicament? Why are these people in our lives? Why do we react the way we
do? These are just a few questions that should be addressed in order for us to move beyond these limiting scenarios.
However, the most important person we have to be concerned about betraying us, about using us, is ourselves. When we
act in ways that we intuitively know are not in our best interest we are using ourselves. We have all done things that we
did not want to do, and sometimes they are necessary, but what we are talking about here is a chronic pattern of self-abuse
and self-sabotage.
When we feel awkward or uncomfortable it is most likely a sign that
the person or situation before us is not for our highest good. We have all dealt with these situations before and
will have to again. How we deal with them is how we value ourselves. Do we welcome them into our lives or do we move
away and move on? By listening to our ego over our intuitive wisdom, we run the risk of inviting long term detriment
into our lives, for a perceived short term gain. The choice is ours, so let's make it consciously, with our health
and well being in mind.
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